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Unity is the Key (Part 4/6)

Updated: Jan 21, 2021

Author: Fabien Marchand Translated by Tony Da Costa with the permission of the author.


You must understand your social behavioral mechanics.

Indeed, the way you express yourself to other people conditions enormously your state of equilibrium. Depending on whether you are asking, giving, or rejecting verbal exchange, the other will respond to your behavior accordingly, possibly being for your advantage or detriment … that is to illustrate the famous mechanism of Karpman’s “Demonic Triangle.”

Depiction of a Victim -- the Demoniac Triangle of Karpman

At the absence of conscious awareness, we may place ourselves either in the role of the executioner, the victim, or the savior.

By doing so, we induce the interlocutor to choose one of the positions of the triangle, thereby distorting any possible normal exchange that could consequently lead one to become autonomous and to build up his inner self.

It is also said that every awakened soul should have experienced all three social positions and should have quit them all before they individually experience the awakening moment, that is to say, reaching their inner self.

Once that mechanism has been understood, one must free oneself from it and act in consequence of one’s interlocutors as to preserve them from adopting it, moreover, as to positively influence others through the mirror effect.

Social relations, of any sort, will be built on strict respect of one’s me and self, thus bringing about people who with one can have constructible and long-lasting relations.

Despite the existence of positive interdependencies, they are nothing like if compared to harmful dependencies.

Spiritual growth:

The butterfly effect?

Our philosophical and spiritual notion of what the karmic path is, will not only be a consequence of our education, inner self-exploration, or the acceptance of our inner selves, and also the results based on our daily choices and actions.

In another article, I will write on “karmic defiance,” destiny, and the widely misunderstood concept of “free will.”

According to the evidence from the wheel of Samsara, we must integrate that our lives depend on that of other souls also incarnated during the same period in time with us.

Before the incarnation, our souls (the Self) have defined a number of experiences we should live and explore, the wisdom we should acquire before the life that animates our bodies ceases them.


The action or inaction of one individual will carry an effect over the lives of others, in a more or less long-term, with a more or less degree of importance.

Moreover, if it happens that one does not get to live enough experiences throughout his life, they must also learn from others, from the choices they make, and from their lives.

I am not saying that you should live by others, but that you should enrich your wisdom by learning from others’ achievements and failures, a nuance that emotional addicts and those with a “false self” have the unfortunate tendency to perceive.

Follow the middle way of moderation:

The middle way is Buddhist teaching from the writings of Siddhartha Gautama, the first Buddha to have ever reached Nirvana, or enlightenment.

The Dharma wheel or middle way is to work the four noble truths in one’s full consciousness.

The first of those truths are Dukkha that says that one should comprehend that the nature of life is made of suffering and joy. The alternation between the two experiences can allow understanding of the other truths.

The second truth is Samudaya that highlights that suffering and joy exist and feed on the presence of desire, possession, envy… All three ultimately dependent on our egotistic choices. Getting rid of desires should result in the prevention of suffering.

The third truth is Nirodha that is the ability to block Dukkha; thus one can free himself from possessive passion, and therefore from suffering…

The fourth truth, Magga, will be to walk through the path of wisdom and detachment to reach the absolute truth, Nibbana, also called Nirvana.

These teachings, wrongly thought to have come from the Buddhism stream, are primarily sourced from the Egyptian Hermetic teachings, the Emerald Table otherwise called Table of Hermes.

But again, we must note that the Egyptians seem to have inherited this knowledge from another source. In another article, I will treat this topic.

Pyramids -- Giza Plateau

Letting go:

Letting go is the absence of one’s desire to control outside and “random” factors that may happen in his own life. As you already know, everything has already been written to happen… At least the most important stages of your life have already been… Organized in chapters that engage when the time is right, always depending on whether your consciences are ready to learn with experiences and capable of drawing wisdom from them.

As it is rightly said in the film, “The Adjustment Bureau,” when the hero asks the following question: “ … but and the notion of free will?” to his guides, whose responsibilities consist of enforcing individual karmas, unequivocally answered: “ … you have the right to choose your toothpaste, for that you have the right…”.

It should as well be immediately said that the intellectual decision as to go in a wrong direction rather than the right one, though everything has been karmically planned, is to be named egocentrism.

Your intellectual consciousness will be opposing against this “already been decided” path as well as against your spiritual consciousness, the only consciousness that knows your karmic roadmap.

You should avoid at all cost taking the wrong path for it is a unilateral choice that will only be irredeemably crowded with hardships, which as you continue to go in that wrong direction, it becomes stronger as mental obstinacy grows.

Nothing is due in life except the achievement of your karma.

Thus concurring with the middle way, you should trust what may come, and sometimes, in your unknown strength which may be activated alone as it coincides with the appropriate moments come around, allowing you to grow out with those experiences. Insisting in a mentally made decision, based on the ego, will only inflict unnecessary suffering upon yourself.

Therefore, letting go is simply the acceptance that some things are written and meant to be, and that the opinion of others is simply theirs.

They may live bad your orientations, your personal values, your vision, your actions, but also your inaction before certain things… They are free too, but their judgments, their decisions should never have interference over yours.

In conclusion

It is only by working to achieve self-unity that your inner self should be able to interact with the inner self of others, not by adapting yourself to the selves of others.

The individual work of inner-exploration will be carried out at your pace, according to your capabilities, without fearing the outsiders, however, always equipped with tools that are vital for your own progression … your desire to inner explore, build, and nourish your inner self.

Subsequently, the expansion of the individual can be done outward, towards the outside of you, towards the world, your “Onedividuality” will be perceived as an example to be followed, positively influencing others who will feel inspired by you, wishing to achieve the same as you.

And finally, this will be done without risking adapting yourself to your family, friends, coworkers, social relations, or media spheres…

Finally, you will have taken yourself out of the matrix.

Case to be continued…

Author: Fabien Marchand Translated by Tony Da Costa with the permission of the author.


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